I never expected, my ten week stay in US would provide peekaboo view of American psyche and a grand revelation about us.
Having superannuated from service I have both time and some extra money at my disposal and that led me to visit my son living in Philadelphia, US. This is my maiden, rather Columbus visit to United States of America. After getting over jet lag, I started exploring neighbourhood and to my disappointment, I could gather by and large, American cities lack public transport - King of Prussia, a small town in north-western part of Philadelphia where my son lives is no exception. However, during my morning and evening walks I noticed a bus stop nearby, very clean but small. I hardly found anyone waiting for the bus. Upon browsing the net, I noticed that two busses ply, number 125 and 99 from that locality. And Bus 125 goes to centre city hall which is downtown of Philadelphia and runs once in an hour.
This really excited me and I had decided to explore Philadelphia all alone when my son was off to work. Next day, I could catch bus no 125 and went to Downtown, typical like a tourist with a camera in hand and back pack. Since I have no agenda or plan, I was roaming around and enjoyed the walk in a strange land. While I was waiting near bus stop on my way back, one woman appearing very American asked me the way to Independence hall - a tourist spot. Though following quaint American accent was bit difficult, I could answer that I am as new to Philly as her. She smiled and walked off. Am I not looking like an outsider?
The only way I could spend my time between such infrequent adventures was by long morning and evening walks. I never found any one walking as I am all alone on the road. While walking I read all sign boards, road names and hotel names and soon the neighbourhood is very familiar to me. One day during such walk, a man stopped the car and asked me. ”Where is PSI building”. I know this place and guided him that he has to turn back and take a left turn and can find it on left side, perhaps 2nd building in the row. Then, I asked him “Is my English clear to you”?
“Perfect, Thanks” and he was off.
And a similar enquiry on the other day by a lady for 1st Avenue. I could guide her perfectly.
These incidents of repeated “enquiring” with me, an apparently looking foreigner puzzled me.
If I get a doubt where is Ranganathan street in T. Nagar, Chennai – Do I enquire with a foreigner walking down the road or I prefer a local. The answer is obvious. I presume the foreigner is ignorant of topography of locality.
Why these Americans never thought that way?
One day, I read in community newspaper about Farmers’ Market being organised every Saturday in county office ground. The county website provided all details elaborately. I felt at home with the name Farmers’ market -Raitu bazar, life everywhere appears same and visited next Saturday by walk though it was 4 miles away. Around 10 to 12 stalls have been erected and farmers are selling their produce - fresh vegetables, pickles and raw milk and the place is maintained very clean and tidy. My son gave me his latest smart phone, so that I can call back in case I need help. I was trying to call back just to say I am safe, but I started struggling to operate the new gadget.
“I have similar one, I am no good using it too” I heard a woman’s voice over my shoulders.
An American woman sharing my plight broke ice with me. She is definitely on the wrong side of fifties.
“That’s the problem with age” I said showing my grey hair.
She laughed and walked away saying “Good luck with your phone”.
Again I started wondering on my way back home. Am I looking like a typical local or am I accepted here?
Any Indian visitor to US like me will be highly impressed with their disciplined public life and road sense while driving. They willingly “yield” to others “Priority” and that ensures road safety or make driving a pleasure. Parking is always clean, between the lines and never any other way. Special and convenient Parking lots are reserved for “Physically Challenged” Violation attracts fine and law is strict. Generally I found those parking lots are vacant save for once. I saw a man driving down the car into that reserved slot. From distance I watched the man getting down the car slowly with a prop - one of his legs was afflicted. Astonished, I asked my son how a man can drive with an afflicted leg - how does he operate break or gas pedal. My son went on saying the cars for them are fitted with hand controls. Wonderful, he is independent even then.
I was recapitulating all these experiences while flying back to India, in comfortable Air India flight which ran both ways punctual to the dot. Upon revaluation, it is clear these people living in this Promised Land have very open mind about others and about anything…that made them to enquire about and talk to me – a reflection of pluralistic thought. Their disciplined public life in an efficient system, irrespective of their physical condition, made them work hard. When choice is given, many of them, perhaps work harder. I read in a management magazine that Americans are most hard working people in the world. No wonder success in every sphere beckons them.
It is pluralism and discipline enshrined in the mind and adherence to law are what we need to progress- better roads, infrastructure can come later.
May be I am jumping to conclusions with very limited sampling, but I remember my mom saying that she checks only one grain for rice being cooked or not. Meanwhile, my flight landed with a thud in Mumbai airport – a throw back into different reality.
